Conversational Intelligence: How Great Leaders Build Trust and Get Extraordinary Results

Conversational Intelligence: How Great Leaders Build Trust and Get Extraordinary Results

It was a few months ago and I was speaking at a healthy workforce conference. The goal was to improve the conditions for employees in healthcare. I was listening to another speaker on the topic of emotional intelligence, and she strongly recommended Conversational ...
Emotional Intelligence 2.0

Emotional Intelligence 2.0

There have been many references to Emotional Intelligence 2.0  in my world over the past several years, but they hadn’t managed to break through and cause me to read it. I had read Daniel Goleman’s Emotional Intelligence  some years ago and it had ...
Find Your Courage: 12 Acts for Becoming Fearless at Work and In Life

Find Your Courage: 12 Acts for Becoming Fearless at Work and In Life

I used to modify the serenity prayer to swap the word strength for courage because I rarely found myself lacking the courage to change the things that I can. (The serenity prayer starts: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,...
Finding Flow: The Psychology of Engagement with Everyday Life

Finding Flow: The Psychology of Engagement with Everyday Life

I’ve been a fan of Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi’s work since first seeing his work. I feel like I spend much of my days in “flow” and the description of it helps me to explain to others something that has been difficult to explain. His book Finding Flow: Th...
Flourish: A Visionary New Understanding of Happiness and Well-being

Flourish: A Visionary New Understanding of Happiness and Well-being

There are plenty of reasons to study Martin Seligman’s work. The foremost authority on positive psychology, former president of the American Psychological Association (APA), and longtime researcher provides plenty of reasons to pay attention. However, t...
Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience

Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience

It was back in October of 2011 when I wrote my book review of Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi’s book Finding Flow . That was very early on in my process of knowledge building. In fact, I didn’t write my post “Research in the age of electrons ” until February...
Grit: How to Keep Going When You Want to Give Up

Grit: How to Keep Going When You Want to Give Up

You can’t make it very long in business without a bit of grit. The statistics are daunting. Within 5 years, 80% of the businesses that were started won’t be around any longer. You can’t raise a family without a bit of grit. There are many times when ...
Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance

Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance

Angela Duckworth’s work on grit has come up in my research more than a few times. Her book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance  was most recently mentioned in The Gift of Failure , and it was then that I realized that I couldn’t delay readin...
Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm, and Confidence

Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm, and Confidence

I’ve never considered myself particularly gifted at mixing audio for live performances. I’ve been a servant who has done them. There’s been more than a few worship services that I’ve supported over the years where I’ve been doing the mixing. However, ...
How to Be an Adult in Relationships

How to Be an Adult in Relationships

It seems like nary a week goes by that I don’t think “When will that person grow up?” This happens to me both in my personal – and my professional life. It’s hard to see how the book How to Be an Adult in a Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving  c...
Inside Jokes: Using Humor to Reverse Engineer the Mind

Inside Jokes: Using Humor to Reverse Engineer the Mind

It’s years now since I started my work on humor, jokes, and comedy. My introduction to standup comedy and my introduction to improvisation courses helped propel me forward in my speaking and my thinking. My post I am a Comedian  summarizes the work at ...
Mindset: The New Psychology of Success

Mindset: The New Psychology of Success

Criticism. Everyone hates it. Or do they? People talk about constructive criticism and somehow that doesn’t make any sense. How can criticism ever be constructive? Isn’t criticism by definition critical? Isn’t it rejecting someone or what they can do? M...
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life

All roads lead to Rome. Sometimes the books that I read are like that. There are so many other books that refer to another that it becomes imperative to read one simply because it's referred to in so many other places. Nonviolent Communication: A Language...
Positivity: Top-Notch Research Reveals the Upward Spiral That Will Change Your Life

Positivity: Top-Notch Research Reveals the Upward Spiral That Will Change Your Life

We’ve all seen the video. It’s a dog that has a toy he won’t let go of. He’s flinging his head back and forth trying to wring the life out of the lifeless toy in his mouth. At some level, we’ve all felt like the toy. We’re being tossed around with no con...
Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and Happiness

Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and Happiness

Our human lives are filled with volatility, uncertainty, complexity, and ambiguity. We face a variety of threats that we can see and those we cannot. Living in this world can make you aware of your need to become resilient. Resilient: How to Grow an ...
Stealing Fire: How Silicon Valley, the Navy SEALs, and Maverick Scientists Are Revolutionizing the Way We Live and Work

Stealing Fire: How Silicon Valley, the Navy SEALs, and Maverick Scientists Are Revolutionizing the Way We Live and Work

Imagine your best day. Imagine the day that you were so in the moment and so ignited, so alive, and then try to make it every day. That’s what Steven Kotler and Jamie Wheal are trying to teach people how to do in Stealing Fire: How Silicon Valley, th...
Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength

Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength

If you were to ask people about their biggest failings, the one thing that if they could get a handle on their lives would be better, what would it be? It might be that solving a lack of willpower might top the list of failings – as it does in research o...